Whoever corrects a scoffer gets himself abuse, and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury. Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.

~Proverbs 9:7-9

I remember quite vividly several times when my parents told me things about myself I did not want to hear.  And I remember reacting immaturely to say the least.   A few days later (or in some cases… a few years) I would come around and realize what they said was true, and I would have to humble myself.

I noticed this pattern after a while; and slowly over time I began to accept reproof more quickly and easily.  I know I still have a long way to go, but at least my eyes are open to it and I suppose that is a way forward.

It seems that a wise man knows how to judge if a person is able to take feedback or criticism.  Some people seem to have an innate ability for discernment.  Still for those like me it has taken time; and trial and error to develop it.

Like any good gift discernment will grow with its use.  I may get it wrong, and when I do I hope to be wise enough to be honest with myself and learn from it.  And I’ll judge rightly as well, and over time I hope to be doing it more and more, as I grow in wisdom and discernment.